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Helen Kenney Poore's avatar

Reading this made my heart hurt. After Emma lost her father, I took her to the movies. Little did I know what the "Day of the Dead" was really about. My timing was horrible, but she wanted to see the animated movie. What we learned though has carried her and me through such times. No one really leaves us, as long as we, the living, keep their memory alive. Bill, Dad, Rob....they're still in our hearts, and that keeps them living. Only the ones who are never spoken about again are dead.

Trevy Thomas's avatar

She is lucky to have you, and so am I. Thank you❤️

Linda's avatar

Beautiful clarity in this article, Trevy, that, I would suspect, resonates with most hearts, as it did to mine. Thank you.

Trevy Thomas's avatar

Thank you, Linda. I sometimes wonder if people just don't want the very personal essays but there are always a few they resonate with. I appreciate your comment❤️

Susan J Tweit's avatar

So true, Trevy. Our bodies do remember, and I suppose in some ways, that is useful. But it's still hard, and I send empathy and love your way in this heavy and painful anniversary month. For me, it's Thanksgiving weekend and always will be. I remind myself that I am lucky to feel the grief because without love, there is no grief. And I certainly had big love. My body remembers that too. Hugs to you.

Trevy Thomas's avatar

Yes, it's good to remember that it's not all sad. I hope Thanksgiving will be those kinds of memories for you. And thank you❤️

Jane Deegan's avatar

Our bodies remember for sure. Those anniversaries of loved ones lost seem to hit. June is one of those months for me but not as tough as November or February. It doesn't matter how many years go by. It's there.

Sending hugs

Trevy Thomas's avatar

Absolutely. Doesn't matter how long ago. I guess that is bittersweet. Thanks, Jane ❤️

Jane Deegan's avatar

So true. I wrote an article about June soon after my son's graduation and published it recently! Then I saw your post too. Not copying you ;)😆

Trevy Thomas's avatar

Haha I would never think that❤️